Friday, February 24, 2006
How Do Others Feel and Act Around You?
What's the secret to attracting others' respect, support, and friendship? It is not through our instinctual initial behavior with others, which is to show others our best side.
Quite the opposite. People are more inclined to like and respect you when they first get to show you their better side. As others enjoy being around you, they see in you the qualities they most like in themselves -- whether or not you've demonstrated that you, in fact, have those qualities.
Probably they will not be aware of their underlying reasoning, yet research shows that people like people who like them. *
In first meeting, women generally tend to become happier and higher performing when they feel liked and like the people they are around.
In first meeting, men generally tend to become happier and higher performing when they feel respected and respect the people they are around.
Tip:
* In first meeting or re-meeting, "Go Slow to Go Fast": First enable the other person to demonstrate or discuss her greatest talent or temperament.
Quite the opposite. People are more inclined to like and respect you when they first get to show you their better side. As others enjoy being around you, they see in you the qualities they most like in themselves -- whether or not you've demonstrated that you, in fact, have those qualities.
Probably they will not be aware of their underlying reasoning, yet research shows that people like people who like them. *
In first meeting, women generally tend to become happier and higher performing when they feel liked and like the people they are around.
In first meeting, men generally tend to become happier and higher performing when they feel respected and respect the people they are around.
Tip:
* In first meeting or re-meeting, "Go Slow to Go Fast": First enable the other person to demonstrate or discuss her greatest talent or temperament.
